tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-47204115563343537292011-11-27T18:43:52.431-06:00Once upon a time it was easy to believe I could BE anything...DO anything... all I needed was hard work and persistance. Years later, I know now that life is not that easy and sometimes no matter how hard you try, one mistake can ruin it all. That said, I also learned to pick myself up, dig deep & realize that the hardest battles are those we fight within ourselves...we must BELIEVE TO ACHEIVE!Stefy Speakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10993788961763459531noreply@blogger.comBlogger251100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4720411556334353729.post-40426773257927486502010-01-27T07:50:00.000-06:002010-01-27T07:50:25.050-06:00

The secret to feeling peaceful even when you have a million things to do

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I have been thinking a lot about time and how it seems like there is never enough of it, especially lately.  Then after watching Josh's video at World's Stongest Librarian - I realized that time is one of my excuses. Yes, I owe myself some "me" time to recharge, but often I waste time that I could be using productively. So I am making lists of things I want to do, need to do and have to do.

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Ok - first thanks to ALL of you who gave me feedback on a domain name- I ended up withthe top 3: StefySpeaksOut, velvetsteel and crossroads.  I ran them through some registration sites and since I really wanted a .com, I ended up choosing: http://www.stefyspeaksout.com/. Don't go there yet. I am in a state of revision. I have learned so much and I want my new site to be professional, easy to

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I Love t-shirts and I like to create, so after Josh's post on the Airport nail bending: I created a t-shirt in his honor. If you want one, follow the link, I put it on Zazzle -you can make anything there! More on the creation of my soon to be update blog later-I did get a domain name: "StefySpeaksOut" - many thanks to all of you who gave me such awesome feedback. I hope to get my new wordpress

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Ok - I have gotten some feedback and ideas for domain names. Now I ask you to rate them and see what you like best.  They each have a letter, so you don't have to type the wor or phrase out, just put the letter and then rank it please. (1=it sicks, up to #5, which=you love it).  Here goes: A.www.StefySayssSo.com B.www.Crossroads.com C.www.prisms and shards                              

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Ok, I admit it - I procrasinate. Whether it's the dishes, laundry, now schoolwork, the "it" task does not seem to matter. For years I told myself that I work better under pressure, so that was just my particular M.O. - What a bunch of balony! Going back to school online has taught me that this trait is NOT to my benefit. Last Friday, I took my mom for a procedure at the hospital and while I

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Ok-I need some help (no comments from those who know me well enough to be smart A**es and tell me you already knew that)! Josh from WSL has inspired me to switch me newbie blog from Blogger to Wordpress. I feel my site needs this upgrade.  The HELP ME part stems from an overabundance of choices: domain name, theme design, too many topics for one single niche... So - I am asking for help from any

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 Our sense of smell is an automatic memory trigger, more so than almost any other sense. “People recall smells with a 65% accuracy after a year, while the visual recall of photos sinks to about 50% after only three months.”(Sense of Smell.org) “Our odor memories frequently have strong emotional qualities and are associated with the good or bad experiences in which they occurred. Olfaction is

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Meet Josh Hanagarne, author of a very awesome blog: http://worldsstrongestlibrarian.com/ . I am officially hooked. He has proven to be a person with tremendous willpower, a super "give it your all" attitude, as well as a sense of humor that I truly appreciate!  He put the call out for guest post topics a while ago and I gave him the topic of being idle. I had just finished a post on it, but

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I am an avid reader of the magazine called "Real Simple" and this month's feature question was:"What does home mean to you?" There were an amazing array of answers from "the sound of a husband's key in the lock at the end of the day" to "total acceptance". These answers led me to think about it for myself and here is a list of things that mean home to me:   1.  Acceptance 2. Leaving the world

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I happened upon a website today: http://www.gagirl.com/hugs/hug.html and the passage below hit me in the heart, so I am sharing it with you: "Hugging is good medicine. It transfers energy, and gives the person hugged an emotional boost. You need four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the largest organ we have and it

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OMG ! I did it! My VERY FIRST own GUEST post was posted on Worlds Strongest Librarian. Check it out. I am so excited...Gotta "do a little dance, .....get down tonight..."Can you hear the music now? Ok -maybe its just my euphoria setting in.If you can't get to the post via the link after my title, here it is again:http://worldsstrongestlibrarian.com/3752/

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There is a Zen saying that goes like this: "To her lover a beautiful woman is a delight/ To a monk she is a distraction/ To a mosquito, she is a good meal." The point being: how we see things or people depends on the lens through which we view them. That lens or filter, is made up of our perceptions, our past experiences, our travels and our education. Both education (not just school, but life's

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Idle hands....why is being idle such a BAD thing? I read a quote the other day that said something to the effect that there was nothing more satisfying than getting all you wanted accomplished done by the days' end. Well...perhaps you might feel accomplished after such a day, but personally I can have a very satisfying day doing nothing. OMG -yes- I said it: NOTHING!Ok-perhaps I am being a bit

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Notice that the title said "accept yourself ", not "love yourself". Though both are important and some might say synonymous, I beg to disagree. Acceptance of oneself requires confidence and healthy self esteem, both of which are sorely lacking in many people. It seems that often people put others down to gain a quick reprieve from the feelings of ineptness or inferiority or jealousy. They take

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Just had to come back and add this link from Problogger's post about blogging not being dead. I loved it.So here it is...at least I hope so -this is my first attempt at a link..let's see how it goes. :)

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I was reading the latest Problogger posts (I love his blog, there is so much useful info there, no matter your experience level) and he was discussing creative thinking techniques and this thought just popped into my head: nature vs nurture?It is an age old question and if you have ever taken a psychology course, then you have probably had some lively discussions about it. Why did it come to me

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This post is for feedback - I am tired of struggling - so many things unsaid between me and my father. He is not the man I used to know. Who is this callous man, uncaring of the emotional damage he inflicts, especially on the one person he vowed to never abandon? Being alive doesn't mean he is THERE. Speaking words, does not qualify as TALKING. Why can't he SEE?Have I tried to talk to him? Of

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Since it's Wednesday, I thought I would share some positive quotes I saw recently. I subscribe to several online newsletters/site, like Selfgrowth.com & Inspiremetoday.com. They provide great motivation and provoke new thought processes.One article had this reference from Elise Robinson:"Things may happen around you and things may happen to you, but the only thing that matters is what happens in

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This post is a little long, but PLEASE bear with me on this one. We live in a time when people are quickly judged and labeled. Everyone does it -even if subconsciously. I am guilty myself of making snap judgements, sometimes even based solely on appearance - which is rather ironic, since as a woman who rides a Harley & has tattoos, I have been on the receiving end of those "labels" myself. It

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I did not mean to go several days without a post, but occasionally I have to have that special time with my husband. It renews my heart and spirit. He is a romantic at heart, frequently writing me notes and letters "just because" that never fail to make my heart swell with love. These love notes are something I advocate for all couples. Even if it's a quick note by the coffeepot wishing your

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I find it rather amusing that I posted Friday on the subject of letting others' attitudes affect one's mood and lo and behold if by Sunday it wasn't happening to me. :) Which simply reinforces my statement that how we choose to react is a daily battle. I am proud to say that I was able to keep myself removed from FEELING the drama of mom and our mutual friend. Well, perhaps not a mutual friend

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Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor RooseveltI love that quote! To some it may seem trite, but it really is true. When you believe in yourself and feel good about who you are, crtitisism and insults are dramatically less likely to make you feel bad. You will see that the poison is coming from the outside and not from within.How many of you have felt this way? It's not

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Once I had big dreams, bright as stars. I would be a nurse. it seemed so natural, since mom had been sick off and on most of my life.I studied hard and received my LVN in 1996, with a perfect 4.0. Yes, I will brag, for I was full to bursting with my accomplishment and I had earned it! Put myself through college, between scholarships and a grant, as well as a part time gig as a nurses' assistant.

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Just do it seemed the appropos title to my first post on this- my very first blog adventure.I have been researching blogging and websites ad -nauseum for what seems like months, although in reality, was more likely weeks, when I finally decided to just get off my butt and create one!As I have learned, everyone has a hard time deciding what to write about, but I feel pushed to share some

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